When I was younger, the only thing I ever dreamed of was becoming a wife and a mother. A wife to a wonderful, perfect man who would be loving, handsome, and respectable. I have that.
I wanted to be the mother to many, children. We would play, laugh, bake, and do lots of arts and crafts. I would be a stay at home mom to my kiddos and we’d have so much fun. My family would be amazing and we’d go on fabulous vacations. I would marry at 25 and have my kids at 28, 30, 31. I would have a set of twins (preferably boys), another set of multiples, and whatever else. I didn’t care – I just wanted a huge family!
As I got older these wants and dreams evolved and I realized I would probably have to work at some point. I had an idea of what a wife was and what kind of wife I wanted to be and built, adapted, and worked on those ideas. I was married 27 and 5 days old. I’ve been married for a year and a few months and it has been everything and nothing like what I expected it to be. I do have a wonderfully, handsome, and respectable husband. And, while we of course have our issues, we still have an excellent marriage and relationship. I am enjoying the frustrating and exciting journey of our two roads becoming one. They’re merging and to see it happening is powerful.
I am obviously behind on my timeline of life but I’m learning to blindly trust God and be patient.
I have never dreamed of becoming anything but a wife and a mother. That may seem trivial and silly, irresponsible and co-dependant but I find both of those roles to be the most important roles in life. Everything after that is just details. I believe that the woman who is the wife and mother has her own personality, her own interests, and ideals that should not be forever neglected and put to the side once she enters these roles. I do not agree that women should not have a life, friends, or interests post marriage and baby. That’s NOT what I’m saying. A wife/mother who has experiences is better equipped to support, raise, and teach their children when they have a bit of experience under their belt – at least I think so! :0)