about me

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We all struggle. Sometimes publically, and at times privately, depending on the sector of life we’re dealing with. A lot of personal struggles are kept for the privacy of our own homes and hearts to be shared with only those select few we entrust such details.

In my relationships – I thrive on sharing stories, current happenings, and getting to know on such personal levels… mainly, because I love to know people. I love to know why. I love to know how you got to be how you are and where you are. I love to learn. And when you are open and talking, sharing – you learn so much. I am MAINLY like this with older people – mainly women – who I admire and respect because you have something I don’t… and I want it. It’s WISDOM. What to do, how to do it, when to do it. What not to do and how to avoid certain outcomes. Love to listen, love to share, love to learn, love to help. Love to share what I’ve learned, through both personal experience and the experience of others, to help others. Fortunately (and sometimes unfortunately), some of the things that are shared aren’t always the happiest of stories. The good behind these stories is that the storyteller has grown & learned from the situation and lucky for me – I get to as well.

I am writing to share my story. To be open and honest about what is going on with me (us) and how it’s going. I think it’s easier to just begin a blog than to send incessant, multi paged texts or emails and much quicker than making numerous phone calls or telling the same story over and over again. It’s easier for me to type it all out ONCE than and easier for you to read at your leisure.

I am NOT writing to incite gossip or rally any type of support or pity – I don’t need it. I have all of the support I could have ever asked for and your pity would make me feel worse. As far as the gossip goes – some will do it anyway. I am doing this because I know I am not the only one going through this and I hate (while understanding) that this isn’t spoken of and kept hush hush. There is nothing like going through something knowing that there is someone else out there who walking the same broken road as you – associated by experience or heart, maybe both.

There is power and information in numbers.

… To stories, growth, wisdom, and friendship.

Alaina.

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5 Responses to about me

  1. Jacci Chambers says:

    I thank you for this! I admire your desire to share and-break the silence when it comes to having children. Our greatest ministry sometimes comes from our greatest pain/trials i think it’s because of the passion it creates. Thank you for your ministry to me and the world!
    Love
    Me

  2. naturallyblessed12 says:

    Hi Alaina,
    Remember me (Mary Foy, its McCullough now) from great times in high school “buddy”  I know we have followed each other on social media in the past and here recently but I just wanted to reconnect for a moment….
    I’m not sure how it came that I ran across your blog, but I am glad I did! As I began to read about you and your story, I became instantly filled with warmth, joy, and hope for many reasons. It’s always great to see what God is doing in the lives of others, and being unashamed of your growth through your life experiences exudes faith and trust in God. Weather we want to admit it or not, we all have struggles in our lives, but when we take the focus off of ourselves for a moment to share our stories or “testify”, We are saying we truly, and wholeheartedly believe God is in control. Trust, no matter what the situation looks like, GOD CAN! Even though our struggles are different, much of what you have shared really hit home for me (the rudeness, insensitive, and irresponsible nature of people). Each day I have to remind myself and say Lord, maybe they just don’t know any better, because unbelievably…some just don’t! As a therapist, I work with children and adolescents, and each day I shatter when I think of how people mistreat and disregard such irreplaceable gifts from God, while we have those individuals who would cherish such a gift. Even though I deal with the reality of others each day, I still consider myself to be somewhat naive, because I always ask myself, or my husband…” do people really do these things,” or “did they really think that was okay to say”? Regardless, I’m sure we could go on and on. When I come across such strong women as you, I have to reach out because as silly as it may sound, it is hard to find those who are truly about God and living their lives to please Him. So as your sister and friend in Christ, I am here, anytime, I love you and am praying for you and your husband.

    Regards,
    Mary

    • Alaina says:

      First, DUH! I remember you!!! Lol. How could I forget!!! 🙂

      And, second…… Thank you for thoughts and encouragement! Your words are truly appreciated! We, as people, are selfish & self involved by nature which is why such comments, actions, and responses shouldn’t surprising (even when they are), we’ve all been in that awkward place!
      I’m sure you’re great at the therapy you provide and hope that you take these frustrating opportunities to (kindly) open some minds!!! Lol.

      See you on Instagram, BUDDY!!!!
      (still love that!!)
      A.

  3. naturallyblessed12 says:

    Hi Alaina,
    Remember me (Mary Foy, its McCullough now) from great times in high school “buddy”  I know we have followed each other on social media in the past and here recently but I just wanted to reconnect for a moment….
    I’m not sure how it came that I ran across your blog, but I am glad I did! As I began to read about you and your story, I became instantly filled with warmth, joy, and hope for many reasons. It’s always great to see what God is doing in the lives of others, and being unashamed of your growth through your life experiences exudes faith and trust in God. Weather we want to admit it or not, we all have struggles in our lives, but when we take the focus off of ourselves for a moment to share our stories or “testify”, We are saying we truly, and wholeheartedly believe God is in control. Trust, no matter what the situation looks like, GOD CAN! Even though our struggles are different, much of what you have shared really hit home for me (the rudeness, insensitive, and irresponsible nature of people). Each day I have to remind myself and say Lord, maybe they just don’t know any better, because unbelievably…some just don’t! As a therapist, I work with children and adolescents, and each day I shatter when I think of how people mistreat and disregard such irreplaceable gifts from God, while we have those individuals who would cherish such a gift. Even though I deal with the reality of others each day, I still consider myself to be somewhat naive, because I always ask myself, or my husband…” do people really do these things,” or “did they really think that was okay to say”? Regardless, I’m sure we could go on and on. When I come across such strong women as you, I have to reach out because as silly as it may sound, it is hard to find those who are truly about God and living their lives to please Him. So as your sister and friend in Christ, I am here, anytime, I love you and am praying for you and your husband.

    Regards,
    Mary

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